Friday, 3 March 2017

Dear Anyone With A Broken Heart,

A broken heart, feels like... absolute shit. Worse than shit, especially if you didn't see it coming. 

It feels like someone has taken a massive sledge hammer to your precious heart and smashed it, as if it was made of something as fragile as glass, even worse if they have another person to increase the force that the hammer hits you with. 

You did not see this coming, of course you didn't. This makes you even sadder, because you were ignorantly happy and feel angry for even allowing yourself to plan the future and being so naive to what was about to happen.

Even if it was something you knew was around the corner, it wouldn't have made the impact any less. Thats like saying you knew you'd twist your ankle if you jumped down those stairs in heels, and let me tell you, still fucking hurts.

Relationships are tricky things and no matter how well you know someone and how much you love them, you cannot truly know what they are thinking. You can't, you can't one day just peer into their mind and live behind their eyes. You can beg and plead that you really do understand, it is impossible, and you can't force anyone to love you. 

You're sad, you feel your whole body is broken. You feel lost and cheated of your time and love. But be sad, you are more than entitled to cry. Cry today, cry tomorrow, cry into your bolognese if you want to. You won't be heartbroken forever, you will come out the other side, like any other wound, you can patch it up and move on. Doesn't mean its forgotten but you are worth more than that. 

People will say things like 'chin up' and 'there's plenty more fish in the sea'. Sometimes that advice is bullshit and you are not ready to hear it yet, but I promise you, one day at a time, the pain eases and you'll realise that you are actually fine and probably a better person for it. Never tell yourself you were stupid for loving them, you did and you can't help that, whats happened is in the past, reflect but don't live there.

Lastly, a breakup comes because something was broken. Surround yourself with so much love from friends and family to replace love lost, I promise everyone is there for you. They will be there whilst you're singing breakup songs at the top of your voice and also to mop up any tears and hand you a glass of wine.

Heartbreak is a bitch, but don't let it take over your life, you are stronger than that, you are incredible. 

Kick ass and be fabulous,

Love, your mended heart. 


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